Premature ejaculation , sexual self-esteem and infertility
Thursday, April 14, 2011
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Most infertile men have poor sexual self-esteem. As it is , they feel inadequate because they cannot get their wife pregnant. On top of this, if they cannot perform in the bedroom, this makes a bad situation even worse.
Sexual problems are as common in infertile men as they are in fertile men. Premature ejaculation is the commonest male sexual problem. It is very distressing , because it makes the man feel inadequate and inferior.
Remember that there is an evolutionary advantage to being a premature ejaculator and this seems to be hard-wired in our genes ! in the past ,wen who could have sex quickly could get lots of women pregnant quickly, and spread their genes far and wide !
This is primarily a psychological problem ; and in many men is the result of behaviour which is learned as a teenager. When you are masturbating in the privacy of the bathroom , you don’t want to be caught by your parents, so you try to ejaculate as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, this behavior is hard to unlearn when you grow up !
Also, many men get misled by assuming that what they watch in blue films is the norm ( while actually it’s just trick photography !)
There are many simple solutions which can help. For one, try having sex a second time after your ejaculate. The second ejaculation is usually delayed and the erection will last longer
You can also change your sexual technique and masturbate your wife first, so she gets sexual release. This will take the pressure to perform off you !
You can also use a local anesthetic jelly locally ( such as Xylocaine) to prolong the time to ejaculation. This is effective, but takes the fun away !
You can also learn techniques such as the Stop-Start or Squeeze technique to delay ejaculation
Some men find that taking the SSRi group of antidepressants also helps
There are also lots of quacks who sell lots of remedies ( online and in real life as well) to “treat” premature ejaculation. They take advantage of a man’s ignorance and inferiority complex – please beware !
Sexual problems are as common in infertile men as they are in fertile men. Premature ejaculation is the commonest male sexual problem. It is very distressing , because it makes the man feel inadequate and inferior.
Remember that there is an evolutionary advantage to being a premature ejaculator and this seems to be hard-wired in our genes ! in the past ,wen who could have sex quickly could get lots of women pregnant quickly, and spread their genes far and wide !
This is primarily a psychological problem ; and in many men is the result of behaviour which is learned as a teenager. When you are masturbating in the privacy of the bathroom , you don’t want to be caught by your parents, so you try to ejaculate as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, this behavior is hard to unlearn when you grow up !
Also, many men get misled by assuming that what they watch in blue films is the norm ( while actually it’s just trick photography !)
There are many simple solutions which can help. For one, try having sex a second time after your ejaculate. The second ejaculation is usually delayed and the erection will last longer
You can also change your sexual technique and masturbate your wife first, so she gets sexual release. This will take the pressure to perform off you !
You can also use a local anesthetic jelly locally ( such as Xylocaine) to prolong the time to ejaculation. This is effective, but takes the fun away !
You can also learn techniques such as the Stop-Start or Squeeze technique to delay ejaculation
Some men find that taking the SSRi group of antidepressants also helps
There are also lots of quacks who sell lots of remedies ( online and in real life as well) to “treat” premature ejaculation. They take advantage of a man’s ignorance and inferiority complex – please beware !
